I was just reading a tumblr post about Brooke Birmingham’s rejected bikini photo from Shape magazine - she lost 172lbs but because of her excess skin the photo was never published. The post started a lengthy discussion on the hate that comes with weight loss, and it’s alot more common that I thought.
For the past two years I’ve held my head up high as some friends and family chose to “support” me through negative comments. After losing the first noticeable 20lbs, some family members made statements like “OMG stop losing weight already!” and “wow I’d love to see you get super skinny, I wonder what you would look like then..?” I know this was just their flash reaction to the start of my transformation, but they probably didn’t realize what they really just said to me. One comment was filled with discouragement and borderline disgust with my progress, while the other made me feel like I would never be thin enough in their eyes, they wouldn’t consider me attractive until I was skin and bones. Speaking of skin and bones, that’s a comment I hear a lot whenever I hug certain family members now, after an almost 60lb loss. Even though that couldn’t be further from the truth, it still hurts and is not a compliment. I am at a great weight, I am fit, and I am healthy. There are no bones poking out anywhere. The worst comment of all was a relative shouting to me at a crowded party “you’ve lost too much weight, you don’t have boobs anymore!”. I know this only came from a place of jealousy, and to my defense I was wearing a tight sports-bra at the time, but suggesting I stay unhealthy just to keep my chest bigger was ridiculous. I used to think that way myself, better not lose weight because my boobs will get smaller… how pathetic.
As you lose weight not everyone is going to be happy for you or cheering you on. It’s important to remember this is about you and your body and your perspective. Their opinions don’t matter, and their comments come from their own insecurities. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about making a positive change in your life. Also, I applaud you Brooke for taking the high road and staying rightfully proud of your body. I’m proud of myself as well for not letting hateful comments infect my fragile mind and steer me off track from my goals. Screw the haters.